Have you ever wondered why some people remain calm in the face of adversity, while others stumble and crumble? Why is it that some people thrive in the face of challenge and adversity at work, while others panic and withdraw into themselves? And while some appear to get ahead while others slowly drown in turbulent waters of life?
Life continues to surprise you at all times. Sometimes it takes a left turn, sometimes a right turn and sometimes a u-turn, leaving you confused. And even if you pull-up, try and stay happy it is inevitable that you will encounter difficulties at some point. Each day you are faced with a laundry list of difficulties, challenges, responsibilities and worries that pull you in several directions.
In such tough times, you normally have 2 options – either you let the situation bother you with anger, frustration, disappointment, negative emotions thereby slowing down your ability to think straight or you muster all the courage, encounter the situation and motivate yourself to bounce back stronger than ever before.
The second option is Resilience – uplifting yourself from the negative and transforming pain into possibility.
Resilience – building the ability to bounce back
Being resilient means being able to adapt and bounce back when something difficult happens in our lives. It is our ability to pick ourselves up, rise again after setbacks, painful experience and come back stronger.
People with a strong internal locus of control, take charge of every situation like a CEO of their own lives and control every single decision that they make for themselves, for business and for their families. When they get knocked down, they are able to use life’s greatest adversities as springboards for success.
And when you exhibit such behaviours, you become the driver of your destiny and resilience becomes your natural state of being. A state of positivity, influence & impact.
The Pandemic across the world today has pushed us with ever-increasing demands on time and energy, leaving us with ambiguity and complexity. We are faced with an environment where everyone around us feels overwhelmed and unable to manage the high expectations of daily lives. And as a result, people find themselves constantly multitasking, distracted, confused, angered, frustrated and pulled in way too many different directions.
There can be never a better time to show character. If you ever want to stay at the top of your game in life and work, you must learn how to successfully navigate your way through such tough times. There will certainly be more times in all of your lives when pressures will mount or you will experience pain, misery and you will struggle to cope with situations. But the true test will require that you take big risks and put yourself on the line, without knowing what the outcome will be. It won’t matter how many times you fall. What matters is that you get up again and keep moving.
Let us accept reality – which you can never grow from merely hanging out in your comfort zone. You will have to own up to the responsibility, get up and move. This is scientifically proven that when you try, fail, try something else, fail, try again and ultimately succeed, you get a nice kick from your dopaminergic reward system. This is what gives you the momentum that you need when adversity hits you like a ton of bricks. The adversity may bend you, but don’t let it break you.
Rephrasing the experience, accepting change, being mindful, having a strong internal locus of control, carrying a growth mindset, nurturing supportive relationships, a high degree of optimism, learning from mistakes, higher self-esteem, higher self-worth, fast track adaptability, problem solving ability and a solution centric approach could just be a few ways to show resilience.
Resilience is like a ‘rubber ball’ : the ability to bounce back in the event of adversity
A famous Japanese proverb says “Fall seven times. Stand up eight.”